Hedonistic

Was chatting with one of my closer pals, KY the other day and he shared a word which wasn't common to me which I found interesting.

Hedonistic.

Hedonistic refers to someone who applies hedonism. Refer this link at wiki for further reading.

For those of you who are damn lazy to click, the gist of hedonism/hedonistic is a school of thought that pleasure is above all things in life. Make it simple, someone who's hedonist seeks to derive maximum pleasure in his/her life.

While I don't think I fit into the category of hedonist fully (I don't touch myself sexually at all times, though the frequency is admittedly high, lol), I do see myself doing things that benefit me directly.

Say for instance the following scenario;

Scenario A
Fresh and Mijel ask me to go Snowflake to hang out and catch up.

Scenario B
A cute guy, say someone like Leo Ho's standard ask me out for a date and mentioned dropping by his house after that.

It doesn't take a genius to tell which scenario brings more benefits to me. But even if Scenario A exists solely without B, The likeliness of me saying yes to it is very low. It's not that I don't like Fresh and Mijel (I love those 2 bitches, non sexually) but I personally doubt I need to be go out and meet up to catch up with then with the technology we have these days.

Yea, I do know that this attitude of mine ain't exactly one that brings a lot of friends closer to me in my life but I can't help it. In this life I'm living in, it's pretty much of a rat race and time is never enough. Hack, I'm gay and I need to hit the gym, take crazy working hours into consideration and where's the time you have to hang out with friends regularly?

Yea, those are excuses I'm making up. I know. Cause I managed to find time to go play Magic cards, go for movies and stay home doing nothing. But I chose to do those instead of keeping a group of friends. Reason? Immediate benefits/gratification.

So in a way.... yes, I do think I'm a hedonist. I seek pleasure/benefit the best I can for my life. Pleasure in this context does not necessary mean fun or sexual favors but it involves comfort, immediate benefits or gratification, getting high (unlikely for me, don't take drugs nor alcohol nor ciggies), sense of acknowledgment, compliments, money, and anything else you can put your head into that makes you happy and want to feel that way as much as you can.

I'm not sure if realization of myself being a hedonist will change the way I act, but I'm just curious if there are others out there who share the way I think?

To be honest, I personally think everyone are hedonists. Reason? You're doing the things to derive pleasure in your own way.

Someone giving a donation to the blind = Hedonist
Why? The person gets a sense of relief which calms his/her soul because he/she contributed to make the life of the blind easier for a moment of time

The same morality sense of relief/responsible applies for all other acts of kindness towards anyone unfortunate in my opinion.

I know now I may seem crazy pointing fingers at others, but to be honest, I do think everyone do things to please themselves and since everyone has different ways to please their own hearts, that's why people behave differently.

Am I right, or am I wrong?

Cheers
Robb