3rd Person in Relationship

Something spicy for thoughts today with the title above.

Let's nail it down to something more specific - consensual 3rd party in a romantic and/or sexual relationship.

Meaning this is not the adulterer, cheating spouse, wu lei jing scenario but all parties are accepting this willingly.

Now in heterosexual relationships, this usually means the man has got 2 girls/wives to love and the wives treat each other like sister (not sure if it's the same behind the husband's back).

Now in a homosexual relationship, this gets a little complicated. Sometimes it might be something similar compared to the straights but you know, gays are ultimately suckers for dicks, so it's like 3 person in love with each other. LOL.

Am sure this might have piqued your curiosity a little since it's not as common as being gay (it's not as cool to be gay as it was these days, throw stones in pavilion and you'll probably hit 80% gays). I have encountered peers who are in such scenario.

His relationship was a lil similar with the straights, he had 2 boyfriends, but the 2 boyfriends are not in love with each other but merely staying in the same house with him. (But his relationship goes way more complicated since his boyfriends had other boyfriends outside the house as well)

I was recently proposed/uncovered to explore a 3 way relationship with someone who's rather young. 19 years old to be exact. While I'm not exactly a paedophile (since he's legal), I've always had issues with being friends with younger guys due to them being a little childish and clingy.

If I had a fling with someone in that age range, I'd usually stay away for at least 1 month to make it clear that it was just a fling (the amount of messages and IM within the 1 month I had to ignore wld usually be quite a fair bit). Now this 19 year guy do appear kiddish as well as clingy but the thing is, he's quite good with his PR skills.

He managed to sweet talked quite a number of important people in my life to put him in a really good light. As much as I do like him (lust too, no denying that), but I feel that he's not ready to be involved in such a complicated relationship at his age. Heck, I don't even know if I'm ready for such things.

I love Zach with all my life. Sure, I have flings every now and then but they have so far remained as fun times and I have always ensured that it was no strings attached. I don't intend to change that any time soon to be honest, but it seems fair to be curious and dig some info of possible scenarios in the future (or probably not).

Anyone of you encountered or heard of relationships (not just sex) that involves more than 2? Would be better if it's a homosexual relationship as I'd love to hear more to learn (or at least get a better idea of what I may or may not get into).

Cheers
Robb

Lovely Couple

Many a times have I heard from nice people around me, be it colleagues or friends saying that Zach and I is a lovely couple.

I agree to a certain extend.

The part that I agree with?
- We do get along quite well
- We understand each other
- We don't do things that require the opposite to guess and react negatively if it's wrong
- We snuggle and cuddle each day
- I tell Zach I love him every day
- *insert all kinds of cheesy things you can imagine*

The part that I don't quite agree with?
- Lovely couple not for young cute guys 1 meh? We're both not so young and not so cute wor.

My new friend observed us and shared that we do love each other very much instead after lepaking at our house. He could tell from the way we talk to each other (though not filled with romance and flowery words), the way we look out for each other's back and of course, how we sleep. :P

It is almost without fail that every morning, we woke up cuddling each other tightly.

I'm truly blessed to have such a wonderful boyfriend indeed. Love ya, Zach. =3=

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Just for the record, Zach and I have been going on strong 6 years and counting. While most of the other gay friends/acquaintances we knew of don't even exceed 3, I thought ours was the longest relationship ever. Well, at least amongst people we know.

Till I was told by a friend/colleague/reader of mine recently that he's having a 9 years relationship. Damn you, Ivan!

If you didn't tell me, I could have still bragged around that I've not known anyone with a longer relationship than me, LOL.

Am sure that if your relationship lasted 9 years, you guys are definitely a lovely couple as well and I hope you 2 all the best for many more years to come.

What's the longest gay relationship you had or heard of? Do share. ;)

P.S. I think H team and agencies are the best bunch to work with, though the work is not easy to begin with. LOL.

Cheers
Robb

Finding A Friend

Well, it's no secret that I'm a loner when it comes to socializing around.

I mean, sure I have flings here and there, but they remain flings and nothing more.

Reason? Well, there hasn't been any flings of mine that could really fit well into the context of a friend that I'd like to have. Technically, it's easier for me to find flings than friends, because with flings, all you need is good looks, reasonable body and willingness to have fun.

Friends?

Well, I'm an asshole for setting requirements, but I need friends who are;
- Reasonable looking (understatement actually, lol)
- Able to converse in English and/or Cantonese (and would be best)
- Not too young nor too old to relate to conversations
- Similar educational/cultural standards with myself
- Humorous in a lame way (preferably Canto lame jokes)
- Play games
- Able to teleport
- Speak to animals
- Has his own petting zoo in his backyard

Okay, the last 3 were exaggerations but you get the drift. The qualities I look in a mere friend is as long as others' who look for their soul mates. Well, for a kid who didn't have much friends since his early days, I tend to be very close to myself and vary on who do I approach to be friends with.

I guess that this continued all the way till now.

On the happy note, I found someone who fits into this criteria with a bonus point - He's gay and cute. LOL.

Flings aside, I think I should give this friendship a try, since the way we talk to each other is equally as lame as Stephen Chow's old movies' dialogues.

What do friends do ah, these days? Yam cha? Watch movies? Play console games? TFK each other? LOL.

Would be great if you, my dearest readers could share what kind of activities you do with your buddies. I haven't had a real buddy for so long, I really have no idea. LOL.

Cheers
Robb

My Nuffnang Story

My story with Nuffnang?

It's gonna be a long one. Not to mention there were so many Nuffnang stories I've told in my blog previously that writing it all over again is not going to be easy.

Am gonna do it a little different today.

Let's google search it and we'll tell the story from there.

With the query of "Robb Chew Nuffnang" brought in about 19,400 results (wow).

If you're to go through most of the websites shown, you'd have obviously found out that I worked for Nuffnang for a period of time under Blogger Relations/Community Relations/Community Management.

My words/warnings were sound (and some were controversial) towards unethical bloggers who attempted to cheat our system and advertisers' goodwill and in the same time, my notoriety/fame amongst bloggers were also reasonable as they acknowledged me a hardcore 'nuffie'.

Reason? I was in all the Nuffnang events ever held for bloggers till 9 months ago.

Now let the pictures do the talking if we're to click images on google for "Robb Chew Nuffnang".

First off this;

Mum, I'm on newspaper!

It was actually a post event coverage for the first ever Blogger's Party by Chipster, Pajamas Party where all bloggers come together for a night filled with fun, entertainment and of course, to celebrate the first anniversary of Nuffnang!

Being a little too daring when I was young, I went with little clothes and guess who made it to a center spread full page full color on TheStar? LOL.

Sounds fun, huh? Back end logistic was definitely challenging for the crew to run. But it was all worthwhile.

It was no secret I was actually a "kampung" boy. I came from a small town, reasonably average family and guess what? Never took a plane before in my life prior to picture above. Nuffnang gave me the opportunity to fly in the sky for the first time as I represented the company to Sabahan Bloggers' Gathering on 2008.

Wonderful people in Sabah, all well worth the trip and Nuffnang was indeed proud to be a sponsor for that night.

From there on we had more exciting times, like when the company secured the first ever movie screening exclusive for bloggers - Hancock!

From there on, we had lots of interesting screenings and moving forward to today, the Nuffnang community has never been entertainment deprived. Thank you Shu Mei from BVI for the opportunity given. ;)

Our good work with movie screenings was heard by other companies who tapped into movie industry for their marketing campaigns, such as Hong Leong Online. One of their campaigns back then was sponsoring Made of Honour, a comedy romance and they threw a gala dinner for bloggers to attend.

And that was the first time I attended a public function with a full on Black Tie as well. * Embarrassing that Nuffnang took so many of my first*

Picture was taken at JW Marriot, opposite Pavilion and man, do I look delicious back then. LOL

Photo above taken in 2008 from Nokia Silent Halloween, where we brought Silent Disco to bloggers party! In case you're too lazy to Google, Silent Disco is where a group of people are tuned in through headsets listening dancing beats and dance at the same place. So technically the venue will be quiet but you get people dancing around. Weird for observers, cool for participants. ;)

And since it was Halloween, we were all dressed up for it pretty well, I'd say.

Ever since then, there were so many requests for blogger events and parties for Nuffnang community as advertisers were confident that the approach was very well received by bloggers generally. Maxis Broadband came back for their second party with Nuffnang (first was Wild Live Blogging) with Music Bash!

Basically this time, we the bloggers came as superstars/rockstars/popstars, thus explaining how cool I looked back then (FML, I'm ugly now).

LG came abort a few times too with Angel & Devil event and even to a Cookie Monster party featuring their LG Cookie!

As a result, 300 people turned up dressed in fuzzy monster costume trying to intimidate/cuddle everyone to death! ROAWRR!!

It has definitely been a long journey of mine with Nuffnang.

Come 16 December 2011, 500 bloggers from around the Asia-Pacific region will flock to Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia for the Nuffnang Asia-Pacific Blog Awards 2011 in Putrajaya Marriott. The Awards aims to not only honour the region's best bloggers, but also to bring together blogger communities from across Asia-Pacific. The Nuffnang Asia-Pacific Blog Awards is brought to you by Volkswagen Malaysia and Putrajaya Marriott.

Blog Awards is an event of recognition for all the hard work bloggers have gone through to make their blogs where they are today. 2 years ago, we had one in Singapore and the company flew me down 6 weeks in advanced to prepare for it. It's a shame I'm not part of the organizing crew anymore but I'm sure the event is in good hands as I had very good successors in Nuffnang to helm the events front.

Me, 2 years ago. You can see I;ve started to accumulate fat. LOL.

I look forward to attend this year's Blog Awards to experience how far the community has grown since I left (totally tuned out of Blogging World).

Will you be going? Check out http://awards.nuffnang.com/2011/ for more details on how to win invites.

All the best, Xinxian and Michelle!

Cheers

Robb

Realistic? Materialistic? Fantastic!

Am gonna be a typical blogger for the day and talk all about myself.

I'm a realistic, materialistic, all-for-himself-stic guy. That means if I'm not getting any benefit from doing something, I'd not do it at all.

Benefit can be defined broadly of course;
- money
- materials
- knowledge
- entertainment
- companionship (friends)
- companionship (sex)
- assistance towards immediate goals in life
- etc etc etc

Let's take for example on why I do the following things;

1. Go to work
I need money, duh. It helps give me knowledge and in the same time sense of purpose in life (partially)

2. Go to a shopping mall
I'd technically only hit the mall if I've something in mind to buy, goal/result oriented. if you're asking me to walk the mall without a reason, I'd rather stay at home cuddling Zaza, Zuzu, Zizi & Brownie.

3. Pick up garbage from the floor
Well, to protect Mother Nature of course!
I was bluffing. The only reason why I sometimes pick up garbage is that it's difficult for me to navigate my way or it's an eyesore that I can no longer tolerate. LOL

Those are just few examples of why I do things and my justification of doing it.

Do you have reasons for everything you do like me?

Or would you want me to share the reasons on the things I did?

Share with me so I can learn more.

Cheers
Robb

Look Mum! No Hands!

It's something I've heard of previously but I never encountered it till yesterday.

Am not gonna beat around the bush (I rather beat meat) this time, I'm talking about gay sex. Am sure some of you guys might have heard/knew/experienced that during anal sex, sometimes when a bottom is totally having the time of his life, he could cum without even being jerked on his dick.

Am sure there are quite a number of tops who heard of this sometimes wonder if they can be good enough for their bottoms to achieve this and I'd admit I used to think of it the same way.

And so I did try in the past to do that but it wasn't something I managed to achieve intentionally.

Well, I did it yesterday unintentionally.

Yes, mum. I did it.

Ah ma, ngor dak jor la!!!!

LOL.

The experience sure was nice and we kinda both cummed together. I sure look forward for such occurences again in the future.

Love ya, dearest!

Cheers
Robb

A Weekend of Peace, Perhaps

Due to a series of ugly issues, I gave up on the thought of going back to my hometown.

Let's just say that money spoils relationship badly. :(

However, I must say it's a blessing in disguise.

Reason?

I stayed home all day resting and getting back my sanity from the large amount of happenings in my life. Been out of the country last week and boy, were there lots of shit happening then, where I can't even enjoy my trip to Beijing.

Well, life ain't smooth sailing all the time, we all know that. But having time for ourselves is important to get ourselves back to sanity especially since most of us live in a very hectic lifestyle in KL.

How did I spend my weekend?

It's pretty simple and it goes like this;

Sleep
Lunch
Played computer games with Zach
Sleep
Dinner
Played computer games with Zach
Sleep
Played computer games with Zach
Lunch
Played computer games (Zach working T__T)
Sleep
Dinner
Played computer games (Zach working T__T)
Blogging this now

So yea... I guess my weekend is a good one.

Dad, now I know why you never really wanted to go out during the weekend. Sorry for bugging you to go out when I was a kid.

I feel you now. Thanks dad for putting meals on our table.

Cheers
Robb

A Simple Life, A Better Life?

Went to FC Massage yesterday to get my backbone ache sorted out. Of course, since it's a gay massage center, it came with other services which I think you can find out by googling around.

My story today ain't about me getting massage or anything like that, but rather on hearing the tale of my masseur yesterday.

Let's call him A. A is only 18yo (not my fault, I didn't look at their age/stats and such when picking him, it was through physical appeal), hailing all the way from a small town in Perak (Ipoh is not a small town, lol). An extremely friendly masseur by my standards, we got to know each other quite well within 15 minutes time through chatting while he worked on my back and legs (not physically, since I only start doing that at the end of session).

Cutting to the chase, he's doing the job because the money is good (obviously, one can get up to 400 bucks/day, beats my day job) and he aims to open his own salon (he got proper training for hairstylist skills) in his hometown with his mother. With little education backing him up on other proper jobs, he chose this line as he sees it as a quick path to his goal.

In terms of love life wise, he sees the world filled with hope that someday his prince charming would find him and they'll live happily ever after.

Now of course, me being me, I kinda doused all his hopes (gently) when I hear about his ideals of love in gay community but it did got me thinking, whether a simple life is a better life.

I once had the same ideals in the gay community but as I grew up, reality started sinking in, or rather, my other head starts influencing the main one. LOL.

As for career/life wise, A wanted badly to go back to his hometown to live with his mum happily ever after. Comparing this to myself, what I ever wanted my entire life was to get out of Ipoh to KL. Thus, A is very much different from me in this sense and I poked him further (non literal, please don't jerk while reading my blog) on why.

He shared that while city life is great and stuff, nothing beats spending time with people he loved the most in his life, which is at this point, his mum. In addition, changes are also pretty minimal in smaller towns and it's more manageable in most aspects of his life.

His points are valid, but I asked further what about the amount of cuties in cities, the luxury of dining, the entertainment opportunities and etc? He shared that these are good to have, but he was doing fine without them to begin with, which made very good sense to me.

So yea, my question of the day would be, what if I chose to live a simple life? Back in Ipoh, probably working for a small company on sales (since I'm quite adequate in my presentation/communication skills), staying with my parents, still half in closet (since I won't tell my parents I'm gay as I still live under their roof).

That would be a road not taken just like the poem we studied in Form 4, ain't it?

What about yourself? Do you think a simple life in a smaller town is better than a life in urban cities like KL/PJ?

Cheers
Robb

Thank God for Facebook

It's amazing what Facebook can do.

Drill down to all the gay guys staying at your are to target your prey easier.

Yummy!

Down side = Setapak is a Mango area.

FML for being a banana.

Cheers
Robb

And I'm Back

Yes, after the long absence in the scene of blogging, I'm finally out of the closet (again)!

I blame myself for procrastinating to blog. You know the usual excuse why someone doesn't blog - my work is tiring, after I got home, I don't feel like blogging anymore that kinda shit.

Well, I've been using that excuse for quite awhile now, but why am I no longer using now? Let's just say that I somewhat feel more 'myself' when I express all my thoughts out knowing that there might be someone out there who will listen to me.

It kinda makes a difference than keeping everything panted up inside you, which I think that was the case (which kinda made my life a little less awesome).

Well anyway, I feel like I've restarted my journey of blogging. Why?

When I was 19, I started blogging because I was emotionally unstable due to a rejection from another guy I happened to like at that time.

Today, I'm emotionally unstable from all the latest happenings around me such as;
- someone who has been a big part of my life leaving forever
- I'm moving house, to Zach's own house while I'm on credit card debt
- I'm getting out of shape and I feel like I could vomit every time I look at the mirror

Truth to be told, I think I lack a major motivation in my life.

If you've been reading my blog, you oughta have read somewhere that I grew up being constantly motivated with rewards (SPM, each A's = RM100 bucks, which was huge for a kid like me and other proportionate rewards going down the ladder).

Now that I'm working at a great company but slightly hectic work schedule, it seems like I am having difficulties yielding a proper motivation to sling myself forward. Though I enjoy what I do at work, I dread the time I spend on it due to the industry norm. Sigh...

Most of the time when I get off work, my mind got so tired I just feel like crashing on the bed and yes, I do that. The next thing you know? It's morning and life repeats itself again.

Seeing beyond that, however reveals that it was a choice of mine to not do anything after the crazy work hours. I could still hit the gym if I motivate myself hard enough, but guess what? I didn't.

I could still call friends out for a drink or two, or even play poker with them, but guess what? I didn't.

Main point I'm blogging today is to express disappointment in myself. Dear fat gay man, you've been such a wonderful procrastinator. It's time to move forward. No more excuses please, or else you'll be doomed to fatness oblivion for eternity where all cute guys shun or feel disgusted when they look at you.

Fuck you, Robb.

Fuck you for messing your life.

Cheers
Robb